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INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION AND CLOSE RELATIONSHIP Friday, October 9, 2015 @ 8:52 AM Hi. PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS Physical attractiveness plays one of the biggest roles in interpersonal attraction. Generally, physical attraction lies under the scope of external determinant which is also one of the factors of interpersonal attraction and close relationship. However, the external determinant differs in different relationships. Most of man-woman relationships are based on physical attractiveness basis. People have always been blinded by society’s standards of beauty that only certain traits or characteristics are perceived or seen as beautiful or handsome. People nowadays have always been making beauty as their utmost priority in choosing their partners. This kind of mentality, I believe should definitely be eradicated from our culture and people should realize that beauty is not as important as inner qualities that make up a person. In society these days, we often see many rich and older men get married to beautiful and young women or celebrities. From this particular phenomenon, we can infer that their relationships are mainly based on beauty at which the women are regarded to be beautiful at positive extreme but the men are just ordinary-looking. The men who are mostly wealthy will be perceived as completely more superior in term of wealth that they could be win the hearts of stunning women. Besides, in high-school community, good-looking students are always involved in relationships while the ordinary-looking students are always single. This somehow proves that man-woman relationships during their adolescent level are mostly on beauty basis because girls who are perceived as beautiful and boys who are regarded as handsome will always switch partners regularly. As someone who has experienced high school, I would definitely say that most teenagers do not really attain their highest level maturity yet at this point in their lives and this is most probably the reason why they do not really take into account or consider other factors comprising of attitudes, wealth or etc rather than merely look when choosing to be in relationships. Society also has always been blinded by stereotypes that segregate between good-looking people and ordinary-looking people. Typically, when a good-looking person does something bad, people are more likely to believe the person is probably influenced by external factors that are completely unavoidable but on the other hand, if ordinary-looking or hideous person does something bad, people will tend to believe that it is his/her fault. We can perceive that there is always biasness that distinguishes ordinary-looking people from good-looking people and it is so sometimes called double-standard. For example, when an ordinary-looking girl is said hardworking, most guys would perceive that she is a nerd but when a drop-dead gorgeous girl is said to be a bookworm, most guys would judge that she is a smart person or probably label them with beauty with brain. This kind of mentality claims that people have always been overly-obsessed with looks without even weighing other crucial factors in a relationship regardless whether it is intimate or not. (Shazrul Hafiz) PROXIMITY Have you ever realized how you meet your best friends and become attach to someone? I bet you don’t even think about it. Actually, this is the power of PROXIMITY. In Social Psychology, proximity is the physical closeness between two individuals with the respect to where they live, where they sit, where they work and etc. Naturally, people will not think about this as they are happy with their life that they have now. But here for me personally, after I know the power of proximity, I start to appreciate people around me. Do not worry because I also met my best friends by the power of proximity itself. To get attach with someone that close to you, it require you to undergo repeated exposure with that person and the most important thing is it must come along with the positive feeling towards that person. In my story, I met my best friends at my secondary school. Can you guess how I met her? She is my cube mate for four years. Plus we also become classmates in the last year of our study. Repeated exposure between both of us for five years actually made our bond become much stronger until today. Although we do not really share too much interests but the power of PROXIMITY overcome everything. Her attitude suit mine very well and I feel easy when I be with her. She is the most understanding friend that I have. When talking about a friendship, I cannot deny that of course we will always meet new friends when we travel or further our studies in the new place. At INTEC, I am confident that the power of proximity is everywhere because we tend to get closer with someone that is near to us. I become closer with a person that sits near to me and we always spend time together where we called it repeated exposure. Being a classmate cannot assure that we will become best friends but when we share the most time together of course we can turn it around to become a best friends with that person. My participants in my study, Glen, Joyce, Eva and Ziada prove that proximity do find us a best friends that we have today because most of them admit that their best friends is their roomates and their classmates. So from now on, I realized that we should aware with the person that are near to us because we tend to get attach with that people. If you could see that the person near to you will give a bad influence towards you, you must take a fast action and protect yourself from being exposed too much with that person. Proximity will not assured that everything will turn out to be positive influences though it also can give negative influences towards our life. (Afifah Aziz) SIMILARITY When talking about interaction, what is the most important thing that you look up for your friends or partner to have? Based on the book, the most crucial thing that can make an interaction become closer is similarity. Basically, people will like and attracted to other people who are similar to them rather than dissimilar. Well, this is just a theory made by experts and since different people have different opinion, I understand if some says that they prefer interaction or relationship with dissimilar people. Personally, I am among those people who think similarity plays an important part in an interaction. First similarity that I will find is in term of personality. My personality needs to match well with my friends or partner in order for me to understand them and they also understand me. My best friends and I are about 80% similar and that makes me very comfortable to talk, to laugh and to live with them (thank God for letting me know them). The reason why interactions need similarity is that similarity relates people. It provides rationale that a person is not alone in his/her belief and also helps people to predict other’s future behavior. In the story The Glass of Menagerie that I have learnt in literature class, the mother, Amanda is very dissimilar compared to her son, Tom. They also have different personality where Amanda is a perfectionist, high-standard-kind-of-mom while Tom is just a humble, messy warehouse worker. Their differences in personality and opinion cause them to erupt into a big fight and at the end, Tom left the house leaving his mother and his sister alone. See, what the experts say is true though. (Hana Diyana) FRIENDSHIPS: RELATIONSHIPS BEYOND THE FAMILY A close friendship is a relationship in which two people spend a great deal of time together, interact in a variety of situations, and provide mutual emotional support. It is more to a friendship between two people who are best friend with the same or opposite gender. People are more likely to find the best friends based on the same interest. If they like to play football or shopping, their tendency to find someone who has the same interest with them are higher. But not all people are like that, just the large number are like that. Maybe other person like to find their best friend without looking at any perspective, just without they realise, they had become best friend without having the same interest but both of them respect each other interest without comment anything. I have a friend who had best friend without the same interest as her. My friend like to watch Korean movies and dramas and her best friend actually anti-Korean movies and dramas. But her best friend respect my friend’s interest. She did not comment anything when my friend started to fangirling with the Korean actor, even she just hear everything that my friend told her. This kind of friendship is good because even though both of them have different interest, but they still can spend a great deal of time together without having their different of interest as barriers for their friendship. (Afiqah Zainon) FRIENDSHIP AND ROMANCE The hottest subtopic in social psychology is presented by the hottest girl. The topic is romantic relationship and falling in love. In a relationship either love or friends, there are something that make the relationship to stay beautiful and wonderful. My brother has just married for 3 years with a beautiful woman. She is beautiful but she cannot cook. They always eat outside and I thought it is wasting time and money. However, they actually have numerous mutual liking. They like to travel and they are food hunter. That’s why they are happy with each other. Besides that, feeling belonging to each other is important in a relationship. Belonging makes us rely towards each other. Basically, I believe that it’s all back to trust matter, how much we trust each other. I am never in the situation that hurt by betrayal of trust so I tend to trust everyone that near to me. when I have slight argument with my friend, I tend to forget the mistake easier and seeking for forgiveness as I think that cold situation between us makes me suffer more than lowering my ego and let the things go. And for me, I love to laugh so the person with great sense of humour can make me excited. My closest friend is the funniest friend in the world. On the other hand, I can see the differences in romance and friendship when it comes to attraction. The girls always attracted to see gentleman guy while it goes same as the boy. We do have different feeling when our eyes (opposite sex) staring each other. Then, the girl might think that the boy likes her. We also do have high level of expectation toward our partner. I want my husband-to-be is a handsome guy with charismatic style and elegance with the coat and tie. (Wan Rawanis) "Trust,respect, loyalty and communication: essential part in successful relationship" 0 Comments: Post a Comment older post ►	Home About eMail Curiosity is the wick in the candle of learning - William A. Ward Hi oustanding people! Welcome to our stunning blog consisting of infinite social-psychological facts that will definitely captivate your enthusiasm and passion to learn more about this stupendous field. Please don't be reluctant to reach us anytime if you have any inquiries or comments that would help us out to change the world. Enjoy and don't forget to hit the follow button! Stay connected with Social Psychologists! 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INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION AND CLOSE RELATIONSHIP

Friday, October 9, 2015 @ 8:52 AM

Hi.

PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS

Physical attractiveness plays one of the biggest roles in interpersonal attraction. Generally, physical attraction lies under the scope of external determinant which is also one of the factors of interpersonal attraction and close relationship. However, the external determinant differs in different relationships. Most of man-woman relationships are based on physical attractiveness basis. People have always been blinded by society’s standards of beauty that only certain traits or characteristics are perceived or seen as beautiful or handsome. People nowadays have always been making beauty as their utmost priority in choosing their partners. This kind of mentality, I believe should definitely be eradicated from our culture and people should realize that beauty is not as important as inner qualities that make up a person.

In society these days, we often see many rich and older men get married to beautiful and young women or celebrities. From this particular phenomenon, we can infer that their relationships are mainly based on beauty at which the women are regarded to be beautiful at positive extreme but the men are just ordinary-looking. The men who are mostly wealthy will be perceived as completely more superior in term of wealth that they could be win the hearts of stunning women.

Besides, in high-school community, good-looking students are always involved in relationships while the ordinary-looking students are always single. This somehow proves that man-woman relationships during their adolescent level are mostly on beauty basis because girls who are perceived as beautiful and boys who are regarded as handsome will always switch partners regularly. As someone who has experienced high school, I would definitely say that most teenagers do not really attain their highest level maturity yet at this point in their lives and this is most probably the reason why they do not really take into account or consider other factors comprising of attitudes, wealth or etc rather than merely look when choosing to be in relationships.

Society also has always been blinded by stereotypes that segregate between good-looking people and ordinary-looking people. Typically, when a good-looking person does something bad, people are more likely to believe the person is probably influenced by external factors that are completely unavoidable but on the other hand, if ordinary-looking or hideous person does something bad, people will tend to believe that it is his/her fault. We can perceive that there is always biasness that distinguishes ordinary-looking people from good-looking people and it is so sometimes called double-standard. For example, when an ordinary-looking girl is said hardworking, most guys would perceive that she is a nerd but when a drop-dead gorgeous girl is said to be a bookworm, most guys would judge that she is a smart person or probably label them with beauty with brain. This kind of mentality claims that people have always been overly-obsessed with looks without even weighing other crucial factors in a relationship regardless whether it is intimate or not.

(Shazrul Hafiz)

PROXIMITY

Have you ever realized how you meet your best friends and become attach to someone? I bet you don’t even think about it. Actually, this is the power of PROXIMITY. In Social Psychology, proximity is the physical closeness between two individuals with the respect to where they live, where they sit, where they work and etc. Naturally, people will not think about this as they are happy with their life that they have now. But here for me personally, after I know the power of proximity, I start to appreciate people around me. Do not worry because I also met my best friends by the power of proximity itself. To get attach with someone that close to you, it require you to undergo repeated exposure with that person and the most important thing is it must come along with the positive feeling towards that person. In my story, I met my best friends at my secondary school. Can you guess how I met her? She is my cube mate for four years. Plus we also become classmates in the last year of our study. Repeated exposure between both of us for five years actually made our bond become much stronger until today. Although we do not really share too much interests but the power of PROXIMITY overcome everything. Her attitude suit mine very well and I feel easy when I be with her. She is the most understanding friend that I have.

When talking about a friendship, I cannot deny that of course we will always meet new friends when we travel or further our studies in the new place. At INTEC, I am confident that the power of proximity is everywhere because we tend to get closer with someone that is near to us. I become closer with a person that sits near to me and we always spend time together where we called it repeated exposure. Being a classmate cannot assure that we will become best friends but when we share the most time together of course we can turn it around to become a best friends with that person. My participants in my study, Glen, Joyce, Eva and Ziada prove that proximity do find us a best friends that we have today because most of them admit that their best friends is their roomates and their classmates. So from now on, I realized that we should aware with the person that are near to us because we tend to get attach with that people. If you could see that the person near to you will give a bad influence towards you, you must take a fast action and protect yourself from being exposed too much with that person. Proximity will not assured that everything will turn out to be positive influences though it also can give negative influences towards our life.

(Afifah Aziz)

SIMILARITY

When talking about interaction, what is the most important thing that you look up for your friends or partner to have? Based on the book, the most crucial thing that can make an interaction become closer is similarity. Basically, people will like and attracted to other people who are similar to them rather than dissimilar. Well, this is just a theory made by experts and since different people have different opinion, I understand if some says that they prefer interaction or relationship with dissimilar people. Personally, I am among those people who think similarity plays an important part in an interaction. First similarity that I will find is in term of personality. My personality needs to match well with my friends or partner in order for me to understand them and they also understand me. My best friends and I are about 80% similar and that makes me very comfortable to talk, to laugh and to live with them (thank God for letting me know them).

The reason why interactions need similarity is that similarity relates people. It provides rationale that a person is not alone in his/her belief and also helps people to predict other’s future behavior. In the story The Glass of Menagerie that I have learnt in literature class, the mother, Amanda is very dissimilar compared to her son, Tom. They also have different personality where Amanda is a perfectionist, high-standard-kind-of-mom while Tom is just a humble, messy warehouse worker. Their differences in personality and opinion cause them to erupt into a big fight and at the end, Tom left the house leaving his mother and his sister alone. See, what the experts say is true though.

(Hana Diyana)

FRIENDSHIPS: RELATIONSHIPS BEYOND THE FAMILY

A close friendship is a relationship in which two people spend a great deal of time together, interact in a variety of situations, and provide mutual emotional support. It is more to a friendship between two people who are best friend with the same or opposite gender. People are more likely to find the best friends based on the same interest. If they like to play football or shopping, their tendency to find someone who has the same interest with them are higher. But not all people are like that, just the large number are like that. Maybe other person like to find their best friend without looking at any perspective, just without they realise, they had become best friend without having the same interest but both of them respect each other interest without comment anything. I have a friend who had best friend without the same interest as her. My friend like to watch Korean movies and dramas and her best friend actually anti-Korean movies and dramas. But her best friend respect my friend’s interest. She did not comment anything when my friend started to fangirling with the Korean actor, even she just hear everything that my friend told her. This kind of friendship is good because even though both of them have different interest, but they still can spend a great deal of time together without having their different of interest as barriers for their friendship.

(Afiqah Zainon)

FRIENDSHIP AND ROMANCE

The hottest subtopic in social psychology is presented by the hottest girl. The topic is romantic relationship and falling in love. In a relationship either love or friends, there are something that make the relationship to stay beautiful and wonderful. My brother has just married for 3 years with a beautiful woman. She is beautiful but she cannot cook. They always eat outside and I thought it is wasting time and money. However, they actually have numerous mutual liking. They like to travel and they are food hunter. That’s why they are happy with each other. Besides that, feeling belonging to each other is important in a relationship. Belonging makes us rely towards each other. Basically, I believe that it’s all back to trust matter, how much we trust each other. I am never in the situation that hurt by betrayal of trust so I tend to trust everyone that near to me. when I have slight argument with my friend, I tend to forget the mistake easier and seeking for forgiveness as I think that cold situation between us makes me suffer more than lowering my ego and let the things go. And for me, I love to laugh so the person with great sense of humour can make me excited. My closest friend is the funniest friend in the world.

On the other hand, I can see the differences in romance and friendship when it comes to attraction. The girls always attracted to see gentleman guy while it goes same as the boy. We do have different feeling when our eyes (opposite sex) staring each other. Then, the girl might think that the boy likes her. We also do have high level of expectation toward our partner. I want my husband-to-be is a handsome guy with charismatic style and elegance with the coat and tie.

(Wan Rawanis)

"Trust,respect, loyalty and communication: essential part in successful relationship"

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