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TRIOS Friday, August 21, 2015 @ 8:23 AM Hi. SOCIAL PERCEPTION Social perception is the process on how we want to know and understand other people. There are 4 main aspects in social perception which are non-verbal communication, attribution, impression management and impression formation. In movie Gone Girl, the main actor, Nick Dunne wanted to approach Amy Dunne. In order to get a positive feedback from Amy, he used the concept of impression management (self presentation) which is an effort by individual to produce favourable first impression on others. In that scene, Nick tried to approach Amy by produce the favourable first impression on him to Amy. He searched for a topic to talk with Amy and at the same time, he built the good side of him to be seen by Amy so that Amy will look at him as a good man. When he asked Amy, “who are you?” and Amy answered by giving him A,B,C so that Nick can guess the answer to his question, Nick did the impression formation by thinking that Amy is interested on him. He then continued to flirt with Amy by answering “I'm the guy to save you from all this awesomeness” when Amy asked “who are you?” and made Amy impressed with him. In Amy’s view, she created the attribution when she knew that Nick will flirt her because Nick looked like interested on her by asking her several questions about the type of man that she like. From that, she used non-verbal communication such as eye contact to tell Nick that she also interested with him. In this scene, the actor and actress used social perception to understand that both of them liked each other without saying it directly about their feelings. (Nurul Afiqah) NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION #1 FACIAL EXPRESSION The greater the nonverbal skills, the more successful you will to be in a wide variety of interactions among the others including close relationship, organizational communication, health care and teacher-student communication. There are four basic channels in nonverbal communication and one of them is facial expression. Emotions are often reflected in the face and can be interpreted by others (maybe the one who concerns). However I believe women and girls interpret facial expression more accurately than men and boys. I’m kind of person who is quite alert with the surrounding specifically to my friend. I acknowledge when she was happy even she not told me that she was happy. I thought about there must be something happened in the morning that made her smile all days. From the way she talked, acted, and how she treated me during that day making me strongly feel that there must be interesting she hid from me. After class ended, she told me that she was excited to go to the class today because she walked along the road to the class with someone that she liked and have a chit chat. It was matched with my thought deduced from her microexpressions. This would be essential part for people to understand nonverbal behavior and reading people in order to get improved relationship. Besides that, as for me, this facial expression can be manageable either we want to hide certain emotions or to emphasize others. For example, my best friend doing well in her study and get pointer of 3.58 but it goes vice versa with me which I’m not perform well in the exam. Then, this is how I try to minimize or even avoid signal of gloating and hide my true expression thus I try to be happy for her. Facial expression can be deceptive but they are also expected because it worked when you want to protect the relationship and have a polite interaction among the others. #2 EYE CONTACT Eye contact also plays an important role in communication. One cannot talk if a person he talked to wear sun glasses because he can’t see though his eyes. Somehow eyes also can talk and give significant meaning to each other. Many ways can be shown on the eyes which they can be such as the angry eyes, the seductive eyes, the flirting gaze and many more. We can know that the person understand what we are saying when we look to his or her eyes. When I talk to someone I will look into their eyes to show respect and care about what they are saying to me. Eye contact also make me feel ease and lead me to talk more when I am comfortable with a particular person. However, when I face someone that can’t keep their eyes for me, it spontaneously making me talks less word and more straight to the point what I want to say towards them. Every time doing my presentation I would like to find eye contact with my listener which is my friend, who I most relaxed when I explain my detail in the presentation. This also can calm myself when I got butterfly in my stomach. When looking through the eyes, I feel like I’m talking to her personally and get her to understand what I am talking about. I can bet that eye contact is somehow a signal to the nature of relationship where it is the tie sign between two people. It can be romantic communication in men women relationship or else. I also experienced it with my best friend which we did a lot of eye contact without literally say what comes to mind because some situation need us to just making the signal in the sake of taking care of other feeling. (Wan Rawanis) #3 TOUCHING Touching is indeed a significant nonverbal communication whether we realize it or not. Touching enhances our verbal communication or technically it also endorses what we are trying to convey to the person we are communicating with. However, this particular type of nonverbal communication depends on several factors; who does the touching, the nature of physical contact and the context in which the touching take place. Different people who do the touching denote different meaning in addressing what the communication is all about. An obvious example is when a male stranger suddenly touches a woman; the woman will tend to feel that particular man is a pervert who is probably trying to sexually harass her. However, if a friend of hers randomly touches her, she will tend to view it as a friendly touch and she will probably give positive feedbacks such as hugs, kisses and smiles. I used to be afraid when a discipline teacher touches me because I thought I had done something wrong when sometimes they just touched me out of friendliness which did not even they wanted to punish me over something The nature of physical contact means the characteristics of the contact that takes place. For example, I used to get pinched by my mother when I misbehaved when I was a child and somehow to me, it meant she was mad at me for being naughty. And also I would say my grandma is one of the most gentle and loving person I have known my entire life. When I was a child she used to rub my back gently and I think she was actually being affectionate and indirectly telling me that she loved me. Hence, whenever she rubbed my back, I would hug her because that was some sort of a positive feedback I would automatically give to her. Besides, the context of physical touching also plays a major role in nonverbal communication. When a random stranger touches us to ask us to help him/her out when she/he gets robbed or snatched, we will tend to view it positively because he/she does not possess any bad intention towards us such as violating our privacy or having the intention to harass us. Another common example is patting or hugging someone when they achieve something big. This example might be so cliché because I think; everyone has personally experienced this quite a number of times. Frankly speaking, I got very outstanding results for my UPSR, PMR and SPM and my mom actually hugged me when she received the news which in a way meant she wanted to congratulate me or indirectly telling me that she was extremely proud of me. Furthermore, touching can also suggest the feelings one person has on another person he/she is communicating with. For example, when a husband touches her wife, it probably means that he is showing an affection or sexual interest towards her. This might be cheesy and gross but we often see in English romance movies these days that the characters or the couple(s) in the movies, when they are said to be deeply in love with each other, they will tend to do more touching (hugging, kissing, cuddling and etc) to portray their unconditional love towards their respective partner(s). When a leader touches his/her subordinates, it probably indicates the dominance or the superiority that projects the power he/she possesses. I frequently see a lot people shaking hands with leaders (Prime Ministers, Ministers, or the King) on the television, and I believe that somehow does not merely denote friendliness but in fact, it signifies dominance or superiority. People sometimes shake hands out of respect and also admiration. #4 BODY LANGUAGE AND GESTURES Next, body language also plays an extremely big role in enhancing nonverbal communication. As a social science student, I would say body languages these days have been so crucial to me because I have always been exposed to a lot of presentations, acting and debates which require me to master a proper way of producing body languages. I have learned in Speech Communication, body language is one of the most essential components in giving a speech. You can’t simply stand still and give a speech in front of the crowd plainly and monotonously and although the main concern of the class was only the speech but we would be graded by our lecturer based on the effective use of our body languages as well. I would say that my body language really enhances my emotions and my verbal communication and this simply means they are complementary. When I am not interested to listen to a presentation or a lecture, I will tend to sit lazily out of boredom or probably rest my chin on the desk. I believe all students would typically do this or sometimes they even yawn. If I were to describe body language, this entry might be full of lengthy explanations because I would consider myself a guy who has always been having all kinds of body languages and it is kind of a bit ironic if I were to be compared to other typical guys because stereotypically, society would perceive men as the one who are lacking in emotional and physical expressions in terms of body language and face expression because men tend to be less expressive than women. I, however, tend to have aggressive body gestures when I am mad over something. When someone irritates or annoys me, I would probably scold him/her with my hands on my waist with my finger pointing here and there. And I would immediately stand up if I’m sitting on a chair. My hand gestures would definitely play a big role that stresses to people how mad I am. Body language cues can basically be conveyed by using different parts and not necessarily using our hands. When I am showing my understanding and agreement to the person I am communicating with, I would give a nod instead of saying I understand or I agree and when I want to refuse something I will shake my head out of disagreement instead of saying no. Shoulder gestures can also be shown to people as a nonverbal communication which I usually raise my shoulder up do to indicate that I have no idea about something (Shazrul Hafiz Suhaime) DECEPTION: RECOGNIZING IT THROUGH NONVERBAL CUES AND ITS EFFECT ON SOCIAL RELATIONS Do you ever being cheated by someone? I bet most of us do. Can you recognize those who want to deceive you? I also have the problem where I could not recognize those who are lying. However, after I learnt about deception under Social Perception topic, I discovered that people who are lying also have their own ‘skill’ and I started to recall back my situation where I being cheated or deceive by other. According to dictionary.com, deception is the act of deceiving; the state of being deceived. Sometimes, there are the reasons why people do lie such us to avoid hurting others feeling, to conceal their real feeling and to avoid punishment for misdeeds. Deception always occurs in our daily life whether we who are the one that deceive other people or we are being deceived by other people. Studies show that the average person lies several times a day. Social Psychology has underlined a few things that we can use to measure the deception by other including microexpression, intentional discrepancies, eye contact, exaggerated facial expression and linguistic style. Deception occurs because of many reasons and sometimes I also made a lie to protect myself. I am a person that could not really make a lie and I even do not know how to cover the things that I should not reveal to everyone. I notice that each time I try to hide something from others, I cannot control my facial expression and sometimes my linguistic style also not coherent with what I am saying. I always used microexpansion : fleeting facial expression lasting only a few tenth or second as I could not hide my true feeling at that time. If I don’t like something and it is not suit my preference, I will make facial expression first but then I start to give positive comment back. For example, if my friends asked me about their appearance on a certain day and unexpectedly that day she wear something that is not my preference, I will silent almost half second and then start to give positive feedback although actually I don’t really like her clothes. in simple word, microexpression is the state where we pause our self for a second before telling the lies. During my secondary school, I have one friend and she is my cube mate since form 1 to form 3. I was quite closed with her back then but there was something that made me curious about her. Her father work as the labor and her mom is housewife. Usually, when we need to buy a new book or clothes for event in school, she will not buy it. When I asked her for the reasons she said she just do not want to buy it because she still can use the old one but from what I could see the clothes that she wore was quite. Maybe other people just accept her reasons without asking more but for me I could realize something that she tried to hide. Every time I asked for the reasons, she seemed uncomfortable at that moment and her tone is different. In social psychology, we call it as linguistic style where the aspects of speech apart from the meaning of the words employed. Several features of linguistic style, such as pronoun use, emotionally toned words, and prepositions and conjunctions that signal cognitive work, have been linked to a number. She may feel guilty either about lying or about the topic we were discussing . I also realized that she tried to avoid eye contact with me compare when she was not lying. Personally speaking, I could say that most of the time I can read her mind and I can detect whether she is lying or not. Then, I just discovered about her family and I knew that her family had a big problem with financial problem as her father’s salary is not enough to support her family. Usually, most of the time when my friends and I were talking about family or money, she will start to do other things. Her behaviors that always gave reasons on everything that she tried to hide cause me to always think negatively about her and not trust her anymore. From my experience, personally I could say that businessman especially the agents or those involve with Multi Level Marketing (MLM) business always applies deception in their life. I realize that when they want to promote their business they always exaggerate in telling something. I used to attend the talk given by them about their promotion and their talks are really impressive. They seem confident in what they are doing and saying and those behaviors made me feel easily to accept the offer. If you have no experience about MLM, you will have high tendency to be deceive. Recently, I attend a talk by APUM (Akademi Perintis Usahawan Malaysia) about their marketing and product. Like usual, of course the speaker will tell us as much as they can about the success or profit that we will gain if we join that business. I cannot deny that the speaker a very enthusiastic. However, when it comes to Question and Answers (Q&A) session, I raised my hand and asked the question whether this business can survive when economy is doing bad. The speaker just answer that this business is ‘economy proof’ without further explanation. He said nothing can hit this business even the economy. Fortunately, I had a chance to observe his facial expression and see that he started to stumble around 30 seconds and the started to give that simple answer and I knew he was being in deception stage. Talking about the consequences of deception on social relations, it will cause mistrust and disliking towards the liar. Once I being deceived with the MLM business, I started to perceive that all businessmen out there are same. I could not accept anymore what they are talking and I tend to observe every single attitude that they present. However, not all the truth can be said out loud and that is one the reasons that required us to make a lie. From this, I could understand why people tend to lie because they do not want to reveal their true feeling and share their pain with other. That is why I believe that openness in a relationship is important because it make us become free and tend to trust each other. Every action that we take has consequences and that is why before we talk anything we need to think twice. I am not a person that always tells the truth about something that I don’t like because I could not bear with the consequences that could happen. However, we can avoid ourselves being deceived by other people with looking at their nonverbal cues. These indicators of nonverbal cues help us to become more careful when we are facing people or strangers where we have high tendency to be cheated by them. “The art of deception lies in Actions not in Words”-anonymous (Afifah Aziz) 0 Comments: Post a Comment older post ► ◄ newer post	Home About eMail Curiosity is the wick in the candle of learning - William A. Ward Hi oustanding people! Welcome to our stunning blog consisting of infinite social-psychological facts that will definitely captivate your enthusiasm and passion to learn more about this stupendous field. 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Friday, August 21, 2015 @ 8:23 AM

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SOCIAL PERCEPTION

Social perception is the process on how we want to know and understand other people. There are 4 main aspects in social perception which are non-verbal communication, attribution, impression management and impression formation. In movie Gone Girl, the main actor, Nick Dunne wanted to approach Amy Dunne. In order to get a positive feedback from Amy, he used the concept of impression management (self presentation) which is an effort by individual to produce favourable first impression on others. In that scene, Nick tried to approach Amy by produce the favourable first impression on him to Amy. He searched for a topic to talk with Amy and at the same time, he built the good side of him to be seen by Amy so that Amy will look at him as a good man. When he asked Amy, “who are you?” and Amy answered by giving him A,B,C so that Nick can guess the answer to his question, Nick did the impression formation by thinking that Amy is interested on him. He then continued to flirt with Amy by answering “I'm the guy to save you from all this awesomeness” when Amy asked “who are you?” and made Amy impressed with him.

In Amy’s view, she created the attribution when she knew that Nick will flirt her because Nick looked like interested on her by asking her several questions about the type of man that she like. From that, she used non-verbal communication such as eye contact to tell Nick that she also interested with him. In this scene, the actor and actress used social perception to understand that both of them liked each other without saying it directly about their feelings.

(Nurul Afiqah)

NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION

#1 FACIAL EXPRESSION

The greater the nonverbal skills, the more successful you will to be in a wide variety of interactions among the others including close relationship, organizational communication, health care and teacher-student communication. There are four basic channels in nonverbal communication and one of them is facial expression. Emotions are often reflected in the face and can be interpreted by others (maybe the one who concerns). However I believe women and girls interpret facial expression more accurately than men and boys. I’m kind of person who is quite alert with the surrounding specifically to my friend. I acknowledge when she was happy even she not told me that she was happy. I thought about there must be something happened in the morning that made her smile all days. From the way she talked, acted, and how she treated me during that day making me strongly feel that there must be interesting she hid from me. After class ended, she told me that she was excited to go to the class today because she walked along the road to the class with someone that she liked and have a chit chat. It was matched with my thought deduced from her microexpressions. This would be essential part for people to understand nonverbal behavior and reading people in order to get improved relationship. Besides that, as for me, this facial expression can be manageable either we want to hide certain emotions or to emphasize others. For example, my best friend doing well in her study and get pointer of 3.58 but it goes vice versa with me which I’m not perform well in the exam. Then, this is how I try to minimize or even avoid signal of gloating and hide my true expression thus I try to be happy for her. Facial expression can be deceptive but they are also expected because it worked when you want to protect the relationship and have a polite interaction among the others.

#2 EYE CONTACT

Eye contact also plays an important role in communication. One cannot talk if a person he talked to wear sun glasses because he can’t see though his eyes. Somehow eyes also can talk and give significant meaning to each other. Many ways can be shown on the eyes which they can be such as the angry eyes, the seductive eyes, the flirting gaze and many more. We can know that the person understand what we are saying when we look to his or her eyes. When I talk to someone I will look into their eyes to show respect and care about what they are saying to me. Eye contact also make me feel ease and lead me to talk more when I am comfortable with a particular person. However, when I face someone that can’t keep their eyes for me, it spontaneously making me talks less word and more straight to the point what I want to say towards them. Every time doing my presentation I would like to find eye contact with my listener which is my friend, who I most relaxed when I explain my detail in the presentation. This also can calm myself when I got butterfly in my stomach. When looking through the eyes, I feel like I’m talking to her personally and get her to understand what I am talking about. I can bet that eye contact is somehow a signal to the nature of relationship where it is the tie sign between two people. It can be romantic communication in men women relationship or else. I also experienced it with my best friend which we did a lot of eye contact without literally say what comes to mind because some situation need us to just making the signal in the sake of taking care of other feeling.

(Wan Rawanis)

#3 TOUCHING

Touching is indeed a significant nonverbal communication whether we realize it or not. Touching enhances our verbal communication or technically it also endorses what we are trying to convey to the person we are communicating with. However, this particular type of nonverbal communication depends on several factors; who does the touching, the nature of physical contact and the context in which the touching take place. Different people who do the touching denote different meaning in addressing what the communication is all about. An obvious example is when a male stranger suddenly touches a woman; the woman will tend to feel that particular man is a pervert who is probably trying to sexually harass her. However, if a friend of hers randomly touches her, she will tend to view it as a friendly touch and she will probably give positive feedbacks such as hugs, kisses and smiles. I used to be afraid when a discipline teacher touches me because I thought I had done something wrong when sometimes they just touched me out of friendliness which did not even they wanted to punish me over something

The nature of physical contact means the characteristics of the contact that takes place. For example, I used to get pinched by my mother when I misbehaved when I was a child and somehow to me, it meant she was mad at me for being naughty. And also I would say my grandma is one of the most gentle and loving person I have known my entire life. When I was a child she used to rub my back gently and I think she was actually being affectionate and indirectly telling me that she loved me. Hence, whenever she rubbed my back, I would hug her because that was some sort of a positive feedback I would automatically give to her.

Besides, the context of physical touching also plays a major role in nonverbal communication. When a random stranger touches us to ask us to help him/her out when she/he gets robbed or snatched, we will tend to view it positively because he/she does not possess any bad intention towards us such as violating our privacy or having the intention to harass us. Another common example is patting or hugging someone when they achieve something big. This example might be so cliché because I think; everyone has personally experienced this quite a number of times. Frankly speaking, I got very outstanding results for my UPSR, PMR and SPM and my mom actually hugged me when she received the news which in a way meant she wanted to congratulate me or indirectly telling me that she was extremely proud of me.

Furthermore, touching can also suggest the feelings one person has on another person he/she is communicating with. For example, when a husband touches her wife, it probably means that he is showing an affection or sexual interest towards her. This might be cheesy and gross but we often see in English romance movies these days that the characters or the couple(s) in the movies, when they are said to be deeply in love with each other, they will tend to do more touching (hugging, kissing, cuddling and etc) to portray their unconditional love towards their respective partner(s). When a leader touches his/her subordinates, it probably indicates the dominance or the superiority that projects the power he/she possesses. I frequently see a lot people shaking hands with leaders (Prime Ministers, Ministers, or the King) on the television, and I believe that somehow does not merely denote friendliness but in fact, it signifies dominance or superiority. People sometimes shake hands out of respect and also admiration.

#4 BODY LANGUAGE AND GESTURES

Next, body language also plays an extremely big role in enhancing nonverbal communication. As a social science student, I would say body languages these days have been so crucial to me because I have always been exposed to a lot of presentations, acting and debates which require me to master a proper way of producing body languages. I have learned in Speech Communication, body language is one of the most essential components in giving a speech. You can’t simply stand still and give a speech in front of the crowd plainly and monotonously and although the main concern of the class was only the speech but we would be graded by our lecturer based on the effective use of our body languages as well.

I would say that my body language really enhances my emotions and my verbal communication and this simply means they are complementary. When I am not interested to listen to a presentation or a lecture, I will tend to sit lazily out of boredom or probably rest my chin on the desk. I believe all students would typically do this or sometimes they even yawn.

If I were to describe body language, this entry might be full of lengthy explanations because I would consider myself a guy who has always been having all kinds of body languages and it is kind of a bit ironic if I were to be compared to other typical guys because stereotypically, society would perceive men as the one who are lacking in emotional and physical expressions in terms of body language and face expression because men tend to be less expressive than women. I, however, tend to have aggressive body gestures when I am mad over something. When someone irritates or annoys me, I would probably scold him/her with my hands on my waist with my finger pointing here and there. And I would immediately stand up if I’m sitting on a chair. My hand gestures would definitely play a big role that stresses to people how mad I am.

Body language cues can basically be conveyed by using different parts and not necessarily using our hands. When I am showing my understanding and agreement to the person I am communicating with, I would give a nod instead of saying I understand or I agree and when I want to refuse something I will shake my head out of disagreement instead of saying no. Shoulder gestures can also be shown to people as a nonverbal communication which I usually raise my shoulder up do to indicate that I have no idea about something

(Shazrul Hafiz Suhaime)

DECEPTION: RECOGNIZING IT THROUGH NONVERBAL CUES AND ITS EFFECT ON SOCIAL RELATIONS

Do you ever being cheated by someone? I bet most of us do. Can you recognize those who want to deceive you? I also have the problem where I could not recognize those who are lying. However, after I learnt about deception under Social Perception topic, I discovered that people who are lying also have their own ‘skill’ and I started to recall back my situation where I being cheated or deceive by other. According to dictionary.com, deception is the act of deceiving; the state of being deceived. Sometimes, there are the reasons why people do lie such us to avoid hurting others feeling, to conceal their real feeling and to avoid punishment for misdeeds. Deception always occurs in our daily life whether we who are the one that deceive other people or we are being deceived by other people. Studies show that the average person lies several times a day. Social Psychology has underlined a few things that we can use to measure the deception by other including microexpression, intentional discrepancies, eye contact, exaggerated facial expression and linguistic style.

Deception occurs because of many reasons and sometimes I also made a lie to protect myself. I am a person that could not really make a lie and I even do not know how to cover the things that I should not reveal to everyone. I notice that each time I try to hide something from others, I cannot control my facial expression and sometimes my linguistic style also not coherent with what I am saying. I always used microexpansion : fleeting facial expression lasting only a few tenth or second as I could not hide my true feeling at that time. If I don’t like something and it is not suit my preference, I will make facial expression first but then I start to give positive comment back. For example, if my friends asked me about their appearance on a certain day and unexpectedly that day she wear something that is not my preference, I will silent almost half second and then start to give positive feedback although actually I don’t really like her clothes. in simple word, microexpression is the state where we pause our self for a second before telling the lies.

During my secondary school, I have one friend and she is my cube mate since form 1 to form 3. I was quite closed with her back then but there was something that made me curious about her. Her father work as the labor and her mom is housewife. Usually, when we need to buy a new book or clothes for event in school, she will not buy it. When I asked her for the reasons she said she just do not want to buy it because she still can use the old one but from what I could see the clothes that she wore was quite. Maybe other people just accept her reasons without asking more but for me I could realize something that she tried to hide. Every time I asked for the reasons, she seemed uncomfortable at that moment and her tone is different. In social psychology, we call it as linguistic style where the aspects of speech apart from the meaning of the words employed. Several features of linguistic style, such as pronoun use, emotionally toned words, and prepositions and conjunctions that signal cognitive work, have been linked to a number. She may feel guilty either about lying or about the topic we were discussing . I also realized that she tried to avoid eye contact with me compare when she was not lying. Personally speaking, I could say that most of the time I can read her mind and I can detect whether she is lying or not. Then, I just discovered about her family and I knew that her family had a big problem with financial problem as her father’s salary is not enough to support her family. Usually, most of the time when my friends and I were talking about family or money, she will start to do other things. Her behaviors that always gave reasons on everything that she tried to hide cause me to always think negatively about her and not trust her anymore.

From my experience, personally I could say that businessman especially the agents or those involve with Multi Level Marketing (MLM) business always applies deception in their life. I realize that when they want to promote their business they always exaggerate in telling something. I used to attend the talk given by them about their promotion and their talks are really impressive. They seem confident in what they are doing and saying and those behaviors made me feel easily to accept the offer. If you have no experience about MLM, you will have high tendency to be deceive. Recently, I attend a talk by APUM (Akademi Perintis Usahawan Malaysia) about their marketing and product. Like usual, of course the speaker will tell us as much as they can about the success or profit that we will gain if we join that business. I cannot deny that the speaker a very enthusiastic. However, when it comes to Question and Answers (Q&A) session, I raised my hand and asked the question whether this business can survive when economy is doing bad. The speaker just answer that this business is ‘economy proof’ without further explanation. He said nothing can hit this business even the economy. Fortunately, I had a chance to observe his facial expression and see that he started to stumble around 30 seconds and the started to give that simple answer and I knew he was being in deception stage.

Talking about the consequences of deception on social relations, it will cause mistrust and disliking towards the liar. Once I being deceived with the MLM business, I started to perceive that all businessmen out there are same. I could not accept anymore what they are talking and I tend to observe every single attitude that they present. However, not all the truth can be said out loud and that is one the reasons that required us to make a lie. From this, I could understand why people tend to lie because they do not want to reveal their true feeling and share their pain with other. That is why I believe that openness in a relationship is important because it make us become free and tend to trust each other. Every action that we take has consequences and that is why before we talk anything we need to think twice. I am not a person that always tells the truth about something that I don’t like because I could not bear with the consequences that could happen. However, we can avoid ourselves being deceived by other people with looking at their nonverbal cues. These indicators of nonverbal cues help us to become more careful when we are facing people or strangers where we have high tendency to be cheated by them.

“The art of deception lies in Actions not in Words”-anonymous

(Afifah Aziz)

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